Let me make you aware
that this definitely is not a “feel-good” book. It sometimes hits rather
hard, and I’m sure that many of my woman readers are bound to get upset
when reading various parts of it - for I have told the truth, which,
unfortunately, sometimes makes people angry.
However, for those of you who do manage to
persevere to the end, the intent of this book will by then have become
quite clear. You WILL be forced to agree that, in spite of my saying some
things which may not be popular with today’s woman, I did sincerely “pour
out my heart” in an attempt to provide as much help as I could to women
who don’t seem to find it easy to attract men - providing them with
possible reasons for their “problem” and offering them SOLUTIONS for it.
If you’re a woman who
cannot seem to get a lot of dates, or if you’re in your thirties, forties,
fifties, or whatever, I’d like to ask you this question: “How long has it
been since you last noticed men turning their heads to admire you?” If
it’s been a while, then you should definitely read this book, even though,
at this time, you might be happily married and thinking that you needn’t
worry about whether or not you still have the ability to attract men -
after all, you have security. But, don’t get too careless - for in today’s
society you never know how long that will last, or how soon you might be
alone again, wanting badly to have some good man in your life once more.
To the best of my knowledge, very
little SOLID, WORKABLE and UNBIASED advice has ever been written -
anywhere - for women who are searching for suggestions on how to find
themselves a good man, and then, perhaps, on how to keep him. Oh, sure -
women’s magazines are full of advice on how to attract a “hunk” or two
(advice usually aimed at beautiful young ladies in their twenties), but
the majority of these “feel-good” articles have been written by women,
who, because of the fact they aren’t men, do not have the ability to
“sense” what and how a man feels inside. These writers, therefore, cannot
guarantee the universal workability of their suggestions and probably
don’t care too much either since their chief concern is to churn out
“catchy” articles which, in turn, will sell more magazines.
What women, who’ve been unsuccessful in their
search for a man, need more than ever today is some good, solid advice
which will ALWAYS do the job and which doesn’t come from women, but from a
man who hasn’t been compelled to “water down” his real opinions in order
to placate the editor of some “make-women-feel-good” publication - a man
who has absolutely nothing to gain by not telling the whole truth. Here,
at last, is exactly that.
In this book you will hear, coming from a
man (maybe for the first time), how a guy REALLY thinks and feels when he
sees a woman whom he finds attractive. You will also hear explained
something about the inner workings of the male mind - the thoughts and
desires which are ignited within a man by the sight of a beautiful woman.
By the time you finish this book, my hope is that you’ll be convinced that
many of these male desires, thoughts and fantasies - which a large segment
of our society might attribute to “dirty-mindedness” - are, in fact, not
“dirty-mindedness” at all, but rather are as normal to a man as, say,
“loving babies” is to a woman.
In writing this book, I’ve tried not to
allow myself to be subject to any inhibitions whatsoever when expressing
my feelings because I needed to communicate them into words as accurately
as possible. That, unfortunately, sometimes requires the use of detailed
descriptions of male/female body parts along with intimate talk of sexual
activities which are not normally discussed in “polite society”. I’m
almost certain, therefore, that as you read through this book, you’ll find
some parts which might seem a little bit too “detailed” for your liking.
For example, in Chapter 12, entitled “HOW
TO GET LOVE WHEN ALL THEY EVER WANT IS SEX”, I get very specific about
what happens to the male during and after the act of sex. Some of the
language I’ve felt it necessary to use, and certain things I’ve stated
there, might make some of the more sensitive of my readers feel a bit
I’ve deliberately chosen to stay away from
the sexual descriptions and terminology so commonly found in the trashy
men’s magazines of today, since personally, I find that such, continuously
demeaning dialogue, which typically portrays all women as being extremely
eager to perform every sexual deviation known to man on each and every one
of these publications’ “lunch-bucket-mentality” readers, is thoroughly
nauseating. While I also do a lot of talking about a woman’s naked body,
I, as opposed to the “bottom-feeders” who put out these “girlie”
publications, look upon it with awe and admiration - as a thing of beauty
created by God - not merely as an outlet for sex, as I think you’ll be
able to surmise.
You’ll find that I have often, while talking
about the naked female body genitalia, used fairly detailed descriptions -
sometimes even borrowing from words which are commonly used on the
“street” to describe such things. Occasionally, I have also employed some
“street language” in describing the act of intercourse along with certain
other intimate sexual activities that men and women do to and with each
other while “making love”.
By sometimes utilizing this type of
language, I believe that I can be far more effective in getting across to
women the exact thoughts and longings which revolve inside a man’s being
and which dominate his feelings from the time he begins to desire a woman
until after he’s finished having sex with her. Knowing this should be of
tremendous help to you whenever you’re seeking a man, whenever you find
yourself in a relationship with one, or, right now, if you happen to be
married or otherwise living with a guy.
Please don’t get “hung up” on the “bad”
parts of this book. I’ve included them because I feel that they’re
necessary to give you, in detail, insight into the thinking of a man. I
only ask that you read the entire book for its message instead of losing
sight of the whole picture when you come to a part which you don’t
The “male thinking” I’ve tried to explain within
these pages was extremely difficult (actually, almost impossible) to
express, since it involved attempting to put into words the very complex
thoughts, feelings and longings that men have when in the process of
becoming excited by a woman. How does one explain such feelings and
emotions to women who, because they are women, do not have the ability to
conjure up similar or like feelings for men?
This book might give you the impression
that I (and men in general) judge women solely by their looks. That
definitely isn’t true, although looks are usually “everything” to men at
first. We do “judge” women by their characters and personalities, but
those attributes by themselves don’t generally have the power to INITIALLY
attract us to them - they are important for later in causing us to truly
fall in love. Men begin to “want” a female, in most cases, only when her
overall appearance is attractive to them, and the advice I offer
throughout these pages will show almost any woman exactly how she can make
herself into someone who is then “desirable” to large numbers of men.
Older, less attractive (and often
“heavier”) women have been known to think that men, in this day and age,
should be “politically correct”, therefore more or less ignoring a woman’s
outward appearance while becoming attracted to her because of her “inner
beauty”. Most men, however, cannot now, nor will they ever, be able to
force themselves into forming a desire for a woman whose looks just happen
to “turn them off”. Men’s genes can never be changed.
I’m convinced that the vast majority
of these women, though, whether older, less attractive, or “heavier”, do
possess the ability to make themselves look at least somewhat attractive,
and therefore desirable to men in general - else I’d never have gone to
the trouble of writing this book. As you’re reading it, you’ll discover
that, throughout its pages, I’ve come up with numerous suggestions and
recommendations for them - advice which I absolutely guarantee will work.
In this book you’re going to hear things
about a man’s feelings, thoughts, and emotions that you’ve never before
heard from any man, including how he “experiences” a woman the first time
he lays eyes on her. In addition, you’ll also be hearing about male sexual
feelings and desires that I’m sure no man has ever divulged to you.
Throughout this book, also, you’ll
find that I relate a lot of my past experiences with girls and women,
together with the feelings they invoked in me at the time. This
information should benefit you greatly in helping you to understand the
things men say and do when you’re together with them. You’ll gain an
insight into men’s thinking that few women possess, thereby acquiring for
yourself the ability to make intelligent and effective decisions which
cannot help but to enhance and solidify your relationships with men.
Now - with my “forward” finally
at an end - go ahead and read the rest of the book, and, bon appétit.